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The Injustice Check

Purpose:

To help you decide when to stand up for yourself.

Instructions:

Step 1: Collect Your Warning Signs

What happens in your thoughts and body right before you accept an injustice?

Do you think:

– “Maybe I’m just being too sensitive.”
– “It’s easier to just let it go.”
– “If I say something, they’ll be upset or leave.”

Or do you:

– Force a smile even when you’re upset
– Stay quiet even when something feels wrong
– Feel your stomach drop, or your chest tighten up

If you’re not sure, pay close attention the next time you sense you’re about to accept something that feels like an injustice — and write down what happened.

Step 2: Pause, Check, and Respond

The next time you notice one of those warning signs, pause and ask:

“Would I be okay with this if it were happening to someone I love?”

If the answer is yes:

Take some time to think about it or get a second opinion.

It might not be an injustice — but that doesn’t mean you have to accept it.

Think it over, check in with someone you trust, then decide how you want to move forward.

If the answer is no:

Then it’s time to set a boundary.

Ask yourself:

“What can I do to protect myself from this injustice?”

That might mean:

– Saying no
– Backing out of something
– Ending a phone call
– Or simply telling the truth

The goal is just to identify what that step is — and take action.

But of course, setting boundaries like this isn’t always easy.

If you’re not ready yet, that’s okay.

There’s an exercise called “Costco” that will help you prepare.