Shame

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Definition:

You believe there’s something fundamentally wrong with you as a person.

What to Do:

You need to identify what’s causing your shame.

You need to practice determining whether it’s justified or misplaced.

You need to practice slowly adjusting how you think, speak, and act accordingly.

You need to use healthy coping strategies whenever your shame comes up.

Why:

When you know the cause of your shame, you get a better idea of what you need to focus on when practicing and how to reduce your exposure to the things that trigger it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Shame is a normal human experience.

But some people are better at responding to it than others.

There are many reasons for this, one of them being narcissistic abuse.

If you’ve experienced it, you may struggle with shame more than someone who hasn’t.

But don’t think of it as something that’s “wrong” with you, because it isn’t.

It’s a skill you get to build, not a flaw you have to carry.

And skills are something anyone can build with practice.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Your shame isn’t going to disappear overnight.

So it’s important to use healthy coping strategies when it comes up.

That way you can move through it instead of getting stuck in it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

How to Do It:

These are examples of how other members of Unfilteredd have applied this in their own lives.

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Tips for Staying Consistent:

These are insights from other members of Unfilteredd about how they managed to stay consistent.

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