Who Am I?

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Purpose:

To help you build an identity that belongs to you.

Instructions:

Start by outlining the different pieces that make up a person’s identity.

Here are some categories you can use:

Traits
Values
Beliefs
Hobbies
Fears
Passions
Skills
Goals
Career

For each one, write down as many things as you can that fall under that category.

Example: Under traits, you might list: thoughtful, creative, independent.

Pro Tip:

You can use AI tools like ChatGPT to help brainstorm ideas for each category.

Here’s a prompt you can use:

“Can you give me a list of [insert category, like ‘values’ or ‘fears’] that could help someone explore their identity and better understand who they are or want to become?”

Once you’ve finished, go back through your lists and circle the ones that feel most true to who you are or who you want to become.

Then, each morning, choose one of the circled items and find a small way to explore or express it during the day.

Example:

If you circled “creativity,” you might:

Cook a meal without a recipe
Write a short poem about your day
Make something by hand — a card, a drawing, a piece of pottery

At the end of the day, write down what you did, how it felt, and what impact it had on you.

Final Thoughts:

Do this for as many days as you can, and save all the reflections you write.

Over time, you’ll be able to use them to guide yourself toward more of what felt good and had a positive impact and less of what felt bad and had a negative impact.

This is how you begin to build an identity that belongs to you.