What You Want vs. What You Have

To help you take the first step toward a relationship where you’re valued.

Step 1:

Name what you want to feel in a healthy relationship.

Examples: safe, chosen, respected, supported, secure.

Step 2:

Name how this relationship makes you feel most of the time.

Examples: anxious, small, unsure, on edge, invisible.

Step 3:

Compare the two lists and point out the mismatches.

Example: “I want to feel ___, but I often feel ___ here.”

The goal of this isn’t to find you a relationship where you’re valued without question today.

It’s to take the first step toward it.

It’s to create a small shift in perspective that gets you thinking:

“This isn’t what I actually want.”

We added short examples to save space.

But please feel free to write as much as you’re comfortable with.

In our opinion, the more detail, the better.