Need for Validation

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Definition:

You look to others for confirmation, approval, or acceptance of your thoughts, feelings, or actions.

What to Do:

You need to identify what drives your need for validation.

Then practice self-validation in low-risk situations and slowly work your way up.

And use healthy coping strategies whenever you feel a need for validation.

Why:

When you know the cause of your need for validation, you get a better idea of what you need to focus on when practicing and how to reduce your exposure to the things that trigger it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Validation is a normal human need.

But some people have healthier ways to pursue it than others.

There are many reasons for this, one of them being narcissistic abuse.

If you’ve experienced it, you may struggle with validation more than someone who hasn’t.

But don’t think of it as something that’s “wrong” with you, because it isn’t.

It’s a skill you get to build, not a flaw you have to carry.

And skills are something anyone can build with practice.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Your need for validation isn’t going to disappear overnight.

So it’s important to use healthy coping strategies when it comes up.

That way you can move through it instead of getting stuck in it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

How to Do It:

These are examples of how other members of Unfilteredd have applied this in their own lives.

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