They’ll Be Fine

To help you challenge the belief that you’re responsible for the narcissist’s well-being.

Step 1:

List as many real examples as you can of times they handled life without your help.

Examples:

– They kept their job without my help
– They went on a trip and managed everything themselves
– They cooked for themselves when I wasn’t around

In our opinion, the more specific these examples are, the better.

Step 2:

Keep this list somewhere easy to access — like the notes app on your phone.

Step 3:

Every time the thought “They need me” pops up, read the list.

This can help break the automatic reflex to step back into the rescuer / caretaker role.