People-Pleasing

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Definition:

You prioritize the feelings and needs of others over your own to gain approval or avoid conflict.

What to Do:

You need to identify what’s causing your people-pleasing.

Then practice putting your feelings and needs first in ways that feel easy to you and slowly work your way up.

And use healthy coping strategies whenever you feel the urge to gain approval or avoid conflict.

Why:

When you know the cause of your people-pleasing, you get a better idea of what you need to focus on when practicing and how to reduce your exposure to the things that trigger it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Approval and peace are normal human desires.

But some people have healthier ways to pursue them than others.

There are many reasons for this, one of them being narcissistic abuse.

If you’ve experienced it, you may struggle with people-pleasing more than someone who hasn’t.

But don’t think of it as something that’s “wrong” with you, because it isn’t.

It’s a skill you get to build, not a flaw you have to carry.

And skills are something anyone can build with practice.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Your people-pleasing isn’t going to disappear overnight.

So it’s important to use healthy coping strategies when it comes up.

That way you can move through it instead of getting stuck in it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

How to Do It:

These are examples of how other members of Unfilteredd have applied this in their own lives.

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Tips for Staying Consistent:

These are insights from other members of Unfilteredd about how they managed to stay consistent.

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