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Hyper-Independence

Definition:

You feel the need to handle everything on your own and struggle to rely on others, even when it hurts you or makes life harder.

What to Do:

You need to identify why depending on others feels unsafe.

Then practice accepting small amounts of help in low-risk situations and slowly work your way up.

And use healthy coping strategies whenever you feel the urge to do everything on your own.

Why:

When you know the cause of your hyper-independence, you get a better idea of what you need to focus on when practicing and how to reduce your exposure to the things that trigger it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Independence is a normal human desire.

But some people have healthier ways to pursue it than others.

There are many reasons for this, one of them being narcissistic abuse.

If you’ve experienced it, you may struggle with hyper-independence more than someone who hasn’t.

But don’t think of it as something that’s “wrong” with you, because it isn’t.

It’s a skill you get to build, not a flaw you have to carry.

And skills are something anyone can build with practice.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

Your hyper-independence isn’t going to disappear overnight.

So it’s important to use healthy coping strategies when it comes up.

That way you can move through it instead of getting stuck in it.

Important: It’s a good idea to also look through the examples in the “How to Do It” section to see what this approach looks like in real life.

How to Do It:

These are examples of how other members of Unfilteredd have applied this in their own lives.

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