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The History Log

Step 1:

Take out a piece of paper or open a note on your device and title it History Log.

Step 2:

Write down everything you’ve said or done to try to improve the relationship.

Step 3:

Write down how they responded.

Step 4:

From now on, every time you try to improve the relationship, add it to this log.

Step 5:

When you start hoping things will change, read through the list and ask: “What does this history tell me to expect going forward?”

Step 6:

Identify one thing you can do to adjust how you think, speak, or act accordingly.